Happily Single or Happily Married

Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands, because if we are not grateful, then no matter how much we have we will not be happy — because we will always want to have something else or something more. - Brother David Steindl-Rast :

Contentment is the key to happiness. If we are contented with what we have or whom we are, we will find true happiness. Success is not the key to happiness but rather happiness is the key to success.

Happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in a hostile atmosphere, you can still feel happy.-H.H. the Dalai Lama:

The process of being happy does not depend on others. You create your own happiness.If you love what you are doing , you will find happiness.

You can be happy as a single as well as being in marriage but I think I rather prefer to be married and being happy because of the joys of a family life and snuggled up in the warm embrace of a loving relationship.

Life is more fulfilling and compassionate when you have children in marriage. It gives meaning to what life is all about . A man who does not marry is like a fruit tree which flowers but bears no fruit.When he grows old, he will be cold ,lonely and living in an empty void.

It is not that they do not want to marry but their expectations are too high or too perfect and no one can live up to their standards or they have not found the right one yet.

If you are single ,be happy and if you are married, be happy too. Being married is full of challenges and if there are no challenges in life, life would not be worth living.

 

The Advantages of Day Dreaming

When you are young ,you have many dreams and you sometimes dream at night and even daydream when you are free and relax. There are times when your dreams can come true while other times they remain unfulfilled.

For some , life is hard enough and daydreaming is the only avenue which they can escape from realism.We dream of success, of being rich and enjoying everything this world can offer us.

It maybe wishful thinking or useless or unproductive activity to some but taken as a whole , it has it's advantages. According to some experts , it is good for your health. When you daydream , you will be thinking of those positive events which can uplift your spirits .

You would dream of a brighter future and this would make you feel happier even though you have not attain that status yet. To have positive thoughts can relieve stress as your mind is taken off over those negative events which have afflicted your everyday life. Stress is bad for your health.

Daydreaming would also refocus your mind on your objective rather than what is happening around you.It would be easier to accept things around you as they are when you know those things are only temporary .

In daydreaming , there are no physical or mental barriers and you could wish anything or fantasize anything you like. There are two types of people , those who are only dreamers and those who work hard to make their dreams come true.

Everything in moderations is good but if taken into extremes can be bad. We should not overindulge in daydreaming or we will become disconnected and out of touch with reality. There should be a right place and time for daydreaming to get the benefits.

You do not want to start daydreaming while you are driving on the road or cooking a meal or while having sex. That would have disastrous consequences. Sometimes , it does happen that way when you lose control of your senses. It is just too good and your mind gets carried away.

When you get nervous or feel stressed it is a high time to start daydreaming, experts recommend. Dream all you want because it will not cost you anything

With today's rat race where everyone is rushing here and there, many do not have the luxury to dream.These people should get off the super highways and slow down to enjoy the simple way of life and live longer.

Like the song," Dream! Dream! Dream!All you have to do is dream.!

 

Lessons From Hell

I'm getting crisis fatigue. I'm tired of hearing about it and I'm tired of watching the market react negatively. It's funny to me that all the people who were FOR the bailout basically promised us that the market was going to fall IF we didn't approve the bailout. Well, guess what: we did get the bailout and look at what the market is doing. You guys are smart!

So, what can we learn from this credit crisis? I have a few lessons I can think of off the top of my head. There may be more. If I missed something, please leave a comment and let me know.

I present to you JLP's Lessons From Hell:

1. You can only live outside of your means for so long. Eventually, you have to reign in your expenses and bring them in-line with your income.

2. A bunch of crap bundled up together and sold off in chunks is still CRAP! Seriously, who's bright idea was it to bundle up subprime mortgages—the riskiest of all mortgages—and sell them off as "safe" investments?

3. Housing prices don't always go up!

4. There's a difference between what you can actually afford and what you are approved for.

5. READ the fine print—that's where all the nasty stuff is going to be found.

6. Don't trust ANYONE who profits off your business! Sure, there are ethical sales people out there but you can't trust that they have YOUR best interests at heart. Remember too that mortgage brokers make a percentage of the amount they write. The more they write, the more they make.

7. Greed is a deadly motivator.

8. People need a basic education in money management.

9. Don't use home equity to buy stuff or take a vacation.

10. Your home is not a bank.

11. Banks and brokerage houses are managed by people just like you and me. Although they may act superior to us, they really aren't—as evidenced by how stupid their actions were in helping create this crisis.

I'm sure there are more lessons but this was all I could come up with. What do you think of this list? What did I miss? Leave a comment and let me know.